***The following story is one I wrote a few years back. It reminds me to KEEP GOING even when it is a struggle. I found great inspiration from the man in this story and though he doesn't know it, he's changed my life. Thank you.***
Overcoming Tragedy – Hard work and connecting with a group dedicated to helping the poor enabled one African man cope with the loss of his family members who had HIV/AIDS
By Christine McCall, Daily News staff
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
NEWPORT — Now he has a smile on his face and can laugh.
For Erick Omondi Okoth, the smiles and laughs come after years of suffering and hardship. Okoth is 29 and lives in the Nyatike Division of the Migori District in Kenya. He was born into a polygamous family, which is common for that region, and in 2002 at the age of 23 he found himself the sole guardian of 15 orphans — seven brothers and eight cousins — after all the adults in the family died from HIV/AIDS.
Okoth is a beneficiary of Catholic Relief Services — or CRS — which is an organization dedicated to helping the poor and vulnerable in 94 countries. Tuesday night, Okoth and Timon Mainga, the HIV/AIDS unit manager for CRS in Kenya, spoke at the Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Community Center about the prevalence of the disease in their country and how CRS has provided much-needed assistance.
Tragedy struck the family when Okoth’s father died in 1998 and left behind three ill wives. His mother and his father’s two other wives died four years later, and by that time six of his uncles and their wives also had died. The lone surviving uncle fled from the home because he believed the family was cursed. Even before the wives, aunts and uncles died, Okoth took on a tremendous amount of responsibility in caring for the family.
Okoth was forced to drop out of secondary school to care for his large family. The situation was grim and it was a constant struggle to provide for and put food on the table for himself, his brothers, cousins and grandmother.
“Life was not easy,” Okoth said. “If I (am) down, who will be up? I have to come up for the other children.”
Lisa D’Ambrogi Railey works for CRS and is the regional representative in New England. She hopes that people realize that “… our brothers and sisters around the world have difficult lives and daily struggles.” But when it comes right down to it Railey said, “They are no different than Americans. They want a better life for their kids.”
That is what Okoth wanted for his brothers and cousins and his belief that he could do it became a reality. Okoth met people from the Lake Region Community Development Organization in 2003. The organization is a partner of The Children Behind under CRS in Kenya. Okoth said he and his family feel so blessed for receiving assistance. The organization has provided Okoth’s family with food, health care, a better home, school fees and counseling, among many other services.
Because of services and training provided by CRS, Okoth was given the opportunity to take part in vocational training and later opened a butchery business. That sufficed for a while, but he needed to make more money to properly care for his family.
Determined to do so, Okoth started a catering business. In a decent month, Okoth brings home what is equivalent to $158.
CRS also has allowed his brothers and cousins to stay in school. What makes Okoth smile a lot these days is the fact that his 23-year-old brother Kennedy Odhiambo Okoth graduated from high school. Okoth said his brother is the first in the family to graduate from high school.
“We are looking forward to him going to college,” his older brother said. There will be even more smiles when a second brother of Okoth’s and a cousin graduate from high school in November.
Not only has Okoth been selfless in providing for his family, but he also is striving to do even more in his community. Okoth is a community mentor at home for the AIDS, Population and Health Integrated Assistance project, also known as APHIA II, which provides people with information about HIV/AIDS, home-based care counseling and counseling about food and nutrition. He also started an organization in his community to provide support to people who have HIV/AIDS or those who are affected by the disease in another form.
Okoth is grateful for all the help he has received and now is happy to give back to others. He has a journal filled with inspirational quotes and one that he reads often to keep him going is by Allan Loymc Ginnis, a Christian psychotherapist. The quote reads, “There is no more noble occupation than to assist another human being and to help someone succeed.”
HIV/AIDS is prevalent throughout Kenya. With a population of 34 million people, about 6 percent of the country’s population is infected with the disease. That number has significantly decreased in the past several years and is down from 14 percent. However, in Okoth’s district the prevalence is still high, with about 14 percent of the population infected.
There are 2.4 million orphans in Kenya and about 1.8 of those have been affected by HIV/AIDS in some form or another, according to Mainga. As head of the CRS/Kenya unit, Mainga is responsible for providing technical and leadership skills to his team to help promote prevention, offer care and support for the population of those affected by the disease. The unit promotes home testing and educates people about reproductive health, malaria, shelter and medical care.
“This program has saved lives,” Mainga said. “I’m also happy to say that this program has given orphans hope. If you have hope, you can overcome anything. If you don’t have hope, you can decide to go on the 25th floor and throw yourself down.”
Mainga’s unit works with 15 partners, reaching 75,000 orphans and vulnerable children and 45,000 people living with HIV/AIDS.
“We have given them an alternative in life by ensuring them that they are in school, by ensuring them that they get training which will help them … by ensuring that they don’t go out there and contract the virus,” Mainga said. “We are also happy that through this program we have been able to build the capacity of the local people with skills which will live with them forever.”
Even though Okoth has experienced much pain and sacrifice in the past 10 years, he chooses to look on the bright side and focus on how far his family has come.
“I know that if I don’t smile, I will be stressed to death,” he said.
After hearing Okoth’s story, it made Leona Johnson, 17, re-evaluate her life. “It makes me feel guilty because I take my life for granted,” she said.
The Newport resident had never heard of CRS before Tuesday night and previously was preoccupied with having the latest cell phone and new sneakers. But now that Johnson knows the organization exists, she said it makes her want to do something to help.
“The challenge is big,” Mainga said.
To help conquer that challenge, Mainga said it is all about support — whether that support comes in the form of a monetary donation, prayer, lending a shoulder to cry on or just spreading the word.
For more information about Catholic Relief Services, visit www.crs.org.
LOVE&LIFE
Should Marriage Take Lessons From Car Dealerships?BY: MAC
First of all I should mention I have never been married and am only 20 years old. Although I am still young I have thought about marriage and children. I know that I want to get married and have a child, however I DO NOT want that child coming out of my body because I cannot even bare period pain, let alone a human being exiting me! Now consider this idea I have, to eliminate divorce and the agony people feel after their divorces I propose that we create leases for our significant others. These leases would be exactly like a car lease. It would go a little something like the following. The lease would be a contract agreed upon by both parties, the man and woman. They would decide to get “joined” for five years. If at the end of those five years they are pleased with the interior of the vehicle along with the less important exterior, they can renew their lease, for life, or for simply another five years. The trick is the big white wedding would not occur with the leases. The 500 people white wedding occurs if you buy the car and decide that you no longer wish to lease the car. This means that the cost of a wedding will not be spent until the couple knows they will likely be successful together. The interior of the car is the engine, the leather seats and the wheel. These are synonymous to the heart of the significant other. The heart and soul is the most important aspect of the person you love. If this changes, the lease should not be renewed. The exterior of the car is also important however, in my opinion if the interior engine of the car is still compassionate than a few dents and scratches on the car simply show character. Now on a political note, if marriage was a lease, this could solve the issue of gay marriage perhaps. Wouldn’t you love to see Washington debate gay marriage leases?! To sum it up, if we make a contract with our significant other than our marriages will occur later on in life, divorces will not be common and children will grow up with both parents instead of visiting one parent on the weekends. So...should marriage take lessons from car dealerships?
Presidential Visit
President Barack Obama speaks at TechBoston Academy in Dorchester on March 8, 2011. (Video by Christine McCall)
Worth the Wait
"IT'S AMAZING"
~ Jem ~
Do it now, you know who you are
You feel it in your heart
And you're burning and wishing
At first, wait, won't get it on a plate
You're gonna have to work for it
Harder and harder
And I know cause I've been there before
Knocking on the doors with rejection
And you'll see cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Patience, now frustrations in the air
And people who don't care
Well, it's gonna get you down
And you'll fall, yes you will hit a wall
but get back on your feet
And you'll be stronger and smarter
And I know cause I've been there before
Knocking down the doors, won't take no for an answer
And you'll see cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Don't be embarrassed, don't be afraid
Don't let your dreams slip away
Determination using your gift
Everybody has a gift
Never give up, never let it die
Trust your instincts and most importantly
You've got nothing to lose
So just go for it
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
~ Jem ~
Do it now, you know who you are
You feel it in your heart
And you're burning and wishing
At first, wait, won't get it on a plate
You're gonna have to work for it
Harder and harder
And I know cause I've been there before
Knocking on the doors with rejection
And you'll see cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Patience, now frustrations in the air
And people who don't care
Well, it's gonna get you down
And you'll fall, yes you will hit a wall
but get back on your feet
And you'll be stronger and smarter
And I know cause I've been there before
Knocking down the doors, won't take no for an answer
And you'll see cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Don't be embarrassed, don't be afraid
Don't let your dreams slip away
Determination using your gift
Everybody has a gift
Never give up, never let it die
Trust your instincts and most importantly
You've got nothing to lose
So just go for it
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
It's amazing, it's amazing
All that you can do
It's amazing, makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Follow your Heart
I've been looking for a sign and I think I found it today.
Today's events affirmed for me what I've known in my heart all along.
I just have to continue working toward it. The road is not smooth, but I will find a way because I know it will bring me pure joy.
Today's events affirmed for me what I've known in my heart all along.
I just have to continue working toward it. The road is not smooth, but I will find a way because I know it will bring me pure joy.
Quote of the Day
"Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you."
~ Wayne Dyer ~
~ Wayne Dyer ~
We All Have Something To Give
Why does it take an event like the earthquake in Haiti for people to come together and give back?
Let's all do our part and give what we can.
It doesn't have to be monetary. There are so many other ways to give back to people in need.
How will you contribute?!?
Let's all do our part and give what we can.
It doesn't have to be monetary. There are so many other ways to give back to people in need.
How will you contribute?!?
Horoscope
I ran a quick errand this afternoon and stopped by Coffee Break to get coffee for my colleagues. They had horoscopes from a local paper posted on the counter and my eyes happened to gaze in that direction. This is what my horoscope said:
When asked by well-meaning Western disciples whether they might join her efforts, Mother Teresa would often reply: "Find your own Calcutta." Opportunities to help those in need are everywhere.
Coincidence? I don't think so. Searching for mine...
When asked by well-meaning Western disciples whether they might join her efforts, Mother Teresa would often reply: "Find your own Calcutta." Opportunities to help those in need are everywhere.
Coincidence? I don't think so. Searching for mine...
C2C KidPack Distribution
Bringing pure joy and a smile that can light up a room to a young child’s face is an empowering and rewarding feeling that Michael A. Nicastro, III, Director of Community Safety Programs and Community Outreach at East Boston Neighborhood Health Center, experiences on a weekly basis when he delivers Cradles to Crayons KidPacks to children in Chelsea, East Boston, Revere and Winthrop.East Boston Neighborhood Health Center is one of about 400 social service agencies that partner with Cradles to Crayons to provide children in Massachusetts with the basic essentials they need to be safe, warm, ready to learn and feel valued throughout the year.
“I feel like it makes a difference in their lives because they may not have been able to afford it on their own,” Nicastro said.
Cradles to Crayons’ employees do not typically interact directly with the children we serve, but recently I was extended an invitation to join Nicastro on two trips as he delivered Cradles to Crayons KidPacks filled with clothing, coats, shoes, books and toys.
Nicastro has worked with Cradles to Crayons for about four years and in that time he estimates that he’s delivered at least 1,500 KidPacks. A number of families in other towns in the surrounding area pick up their KidPacks at the health center.
Nicastro receives referrals from pediatricians, obstetricians and other medical staff at the health center who request items from Cradles to Crayons on behalf of their patients. Depending on the number of orders ready for pick up, Nicastro typically drives down to Quincy on Friday mornings to load the orders in the van and then goes from house to house delivering the packages.
To ensure the packages are getting to the children, Nicastro calls the parents or caregivers the night before to arrange the drop off and gives them an expected time of arrival. On the first visit with Nicastro, we loaded 35 KidPacks into the back of the van and organized them by zip code.
Our first stop was a home in Chelsea. When we arrived at the home, we called to let the mother know we were outside. We had four packages for her children ranging in age from 3-11. The mother came outside to greet us and we helped carry the bags to her front door. She did not converse much, but the simple “thank you” and handshake showed her overwhelming gratitude.
“This is what’s satisfying,” Nicastro said. “You can’t get more grassroots than this…”
As we drove through the neighborhoods in Chelsea and East Boston that day, many of the mothers who came outside their homes to meet us and accept the packages did not speak English very well. But again the expression on their faces spoke more than words ever could and showed their immense appreciation for the products Cradles to Crayons is providing for their children.
Nicastro explained that the KidPacks represent money that parents or caregivers do not have to spend. Instead the money saved on clothing, toys and winter coats goes toward groceries, electric and heating bills and rent.
“C2C provides an option to them [parents] that they otherwise would not have,” Nicastro said. “In many instances, they would not have it [winter items] if it were not for Cradles.”
Many of the children receiving KidPacks are from Central and South America and they are unaccustomed to the New England winters. They are not prepared for the cold temperatures and there are children without coats and boots at school bus stops, Nicastro said.
For Nicastro, it is the direct interaction with patients that makes this part of his job so rewarding. “You can see the need,” Nicastro said. “It helps me to self actualize. I’ve learned to lose my self-importance.”
After a woman in East Boston received KidPacks for her 8-month-old, 2-year-old and 3-year-old, she asked me for my Cradles to Crayons business card because she wanted to send a thank you note to make the staff aware of how much this helps her and her family.
Our last stop during that first trip was a home in East Boston. A little girl dressed in red pants and white shirt with the word “Diva” written across the front in red piping pranced out of the house and greeted me with a big smile.
I will never forget the look on the 3-year-old girl’s face in East Boston when her eyes gazed upon the KidPack. Immediately, she started dancing around the bag and excitedly asked, “Is this for me? Is this for me?”
I crouched down to her level to examine the contents of the bag with her. She looked like a little diva as she danced around the bag and pointed at the new clothes, coat, books and toys in the bag. A birthday gift was included in the package and I told her that there was something extra special in there for her.
Without any hesitation, she wrapped her little arms around me and gave me the biggest bear hug a 3-year-old can give. Then she kissed me on the cheek. Her mother looked on and just smiled. At that moment, there were no words that could express how grateful the mother was for the contents inside the KidPack.
In these few seconds, I was overwhelmed with emotion and my eyes welled up with tears of happiness. Before we said goodbye and made the trip back to Cradles to Crayons, the little girl turned around and gave me a high five. It was her pure innocence and excitement that melted my heart. Days like this leave a lasting impression and give the work we do at Cradles to Crayons new meaning and perspective.
In my two delivery trips with Nicastro, we delivered a total of 74 KidPacks. On the second trip at the end of October, we delivered KidPacks to homes in Chelsea, Orient Heights in East Boston, Everett and the East Boston Neighborhood Health Center. The recipients at each and every home were humbled to receive the KidPacks and gracious in accepting them.
Nicastro will be in tomorrow morning at his regular time to pick up about 50 orders and plans to spend his Friday delivering all of them.
“This is one of the best things I do,” he said.
To date this year, Cradles to Crayons has provided 18,473 Kid Packs to low-income and homeless children living in Massachusetts, which is an increase of 26 percent over last year’s 14,681 KidPacks.
“It’s been a truly wonderful relationship,” Nicastro said. “Without [Cradles to Crayons], many of these children wouldn’t have winter clothing…that’s a fact.”
Fortune from 10/30/09
"The simplest answer is to act."
This is a very fitting statement for me at the stage I am in right now.
This is a very fitting statement for me at the stage I am in right now.
The Bright Side
To a very special 3-year-old in East Boston who made today a day I will never forget. Thank you!
Take A Look Around
You think you have it bad and start to feel sorry for yourself. In the last week, you've gotten in a car accident (that was not your fault) and your boyfriend broke up with you.
Everyone around you is trying to give advice, but none of them have their lives in any type of order, so REALLY what in the world qualifies them?
The walls feel like they are about to crumble in on you and it seems you are trapped.
But there is a silver lining.
The facts:
* You are alive and were not injured in the accident.
* The car is just a thing and can be fixed.
* There are more fish in the sea.
NOTE to everyone: Open your eyes and really take a look around to notice what's MOST important!
Everyone around you is trying to give advice, but none of them have their lives in any type of order, so REALLY what in the world qualifies them?
The walls feel like they are about to crumble in on you and it seems you are trapped.
But there is a silver lining.
The facts:
* You are alive and were not injured in the accident.
* The car is just a thing and can be fixed.
* There are more fish in the sea.
NOTE to everyone: Open your eyes and really take a look around to notice what's MOST important!
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